He refers to this with an extended metaphor of surgery, and in doing so asks some great pre-op questions for those doing the 'surgery' of correction:
- Have I prayed for God's wisdom and acknowledged my need for his help in serving my spouse?
- Are my observations based upon patterns of behavior or merely a single incident?
- Am I content to address one area of concern, even if I am aware of several?
- Am I committed to making incisions no larger than necessary?
- Am I prepared to humbly offer an observation rather than an assumption or conclusion?
- Is my goal to promote God's truth or my preference?